parents and child
Thursday, September 16, 2010 @ 9:21:00 pm

I guess there are two sides to this argument. I'll tell you the optimistic side of it all. Can you all, with complete certainty say that you
hate your parents? There's probably a selection of kids out there that do have the right to say such a thing, but take that aside. When I ask you,
'Why do you hate your parents? am I yet again going to be faced with the answers:
›› They don't understand me.
I know this. How? I've gone through situations like this. Maybe not as severe as yours... but in a way, I've still gone through this. By undergoing changes and talking to my parents, I guess I've triggered a switch in our relationship and each party has a better understanding of the other.
Just one day, random moment of the day, I was doing chores with my mum and I started talking to her about my social life. At first, she thought I did the weirdest things. These were such as:
›› Our generation can hang around with guys that aren't our boyfriends
›› we can go to some guy's house and we will not do something weird
›› we can act friendly with a guy and we don't have to be going out
Anyhow, it was all based around relationships between guys and girls. Honestly, Asian parents think of every possibility that may occur within anything.
After that, she told me stories about when she was young and I came face to face with one of those stories that only ever occur in dramas. But it actually happened to someone around me.
So there was this guy and he was so in love with a girl, that when she came to Australia to study, he followed her here, even though he was quite poor and could only just afford it. Anyways, once he got here, in short, the girl dumped him for an old rich pedophile.
You agree right, only happens in movies?
My point for today is, your relationship with your parents may not be that good, but step by step, I hope you can try talk to your parents about your personal life and gradually it will be like your relationship is becoming more open and honest. This way, it is more likely that your parents may understand you and you won't really have a reason to say why you dislike them, right?
Or, try to think more optimistically. I know I'm being overly optimistic, and I'm only talking about the most ideal situation, but I like to think that everyone will have their own happily ever after. Because you know what, without your parents, where would you be? They've pretty much led you throughout your whole life. Helped you make choices, survive the toughest.
And please don't tell me that your parents don't want to. No matter how many times your parents call you fat, say you're ugly, say that a bit of pork is more useful than you (personal experience), you have to realise that you are their child, and there's nothing you, nor they, can do about it. Honestly, there's no such thing as a parent wishing they hadn't given birth to their child. Deep down, they do love you for who you are, even with all those flaws. So please don't say that your parents hate you, and same goes for you hating them. Think about it, it's not true.
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Labels: relationships